I woke up this morning and thought to myself, it's going to be a beautiful day! And it was!
I started out with a perfect cup of coffee and had a nice chat with my son. He was feeling a sore neck and I told him after my 11am appointment to come by the office and I'll work on his neck. He came by and afterwards we went out to lunch and had a great time. The weather was perfect! I stopped at an antique shop and got a really nice table for the office. I went back to the office and more appointments were booked! I finished up and went home and had a lovely evening with my family.
And now I come here to this question. Thinking about my thought this morning and agreeing, yes! It has been a beautiful day! I set my intention and there it is! Thanks Uni!
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The Truth About Bad Habits
By Anastasia Netri
The other day, I was sitting in my bedroom faced with a decision about
whether to go exercise or go to the coffee shop. I used to exercise
every day. Lately, so much in my life has shifted that I somehow,
without even noticing, got out of the habit of daily exercise. It's been
nearly three weeks now, and find myself craving the morning cup of joe
(I NEVER used to drink coffee either!) and not exercising. No wonder I'm
tired!
The decision seemed obvious, which was to go and exercise. However, when
I stood up, my entire body was screaming "NOOO!" and I felt like I was
having to force myself, which is a painful, yucky, and uncomfortable
feeling.
I took a step back and became fascinated at what was going on. I was
resisting something that I knew would make me feel fantastic! It seemed
easier to choose something that would cause a drop in my energy level
after the "high" wore off. Not to mention that I got to beat up on
myself for making the "wrong" decision.
So, in this moment of coffee vs. exercise, I sat and really went inward.
I asked the question I've never really asked point blank before - Why is
it so darn easy to get into bad habits, and so hard to get into good
ones?
After I posed the fateful question, the answer came to me within
seconds.
Are you ready? Really ready to discover the answer? Well, here it is:
Bad habits keep you in the state of "status quo". Good habits move us
forward and promote change, personal growth, and expansion.
A "bad" habit keeps us stuck in "status quo" for a few reasons, here are
some to be aware of:
The habit promotes a decrease in your energy level
The habit keeps you in a state of distraction
The habit causes you to beat up on yourself ("I can't believe I did that
- again! What's wrong with me?). There is no better way to NOT expand
and grow than negative "self talk".
This awareness has really helped me. The moment I understood that I was
only resisting change, I immediately got up and exercised. I also had
the realization that I will need to keep reminding myself of that until
I have formed the "good habit" again.
Eben Pagan, a expert on this, calls it "habit gravity". He says that
when you first are beginning to form a new habit (especially one that
will move you forward in life) it literally feels like you are defying
gravity for the first few days. Just knowing that helps.
Only you know where to begin. Really, we all do. Understand that any
time you are moving forward in life your conditioned mind will put up
resistance. You can train your mind to change. I am a big fan of small
steps. You needn't shock your mind with trying to turn everything around
tomorrow.
Eventually we will return to our comfort zone unless we take care of
ourselves, and have patience with growing out of it.
I'll give you an example. Let's say you want to exercise more, but you
have not gotten off the couch in three months. You set a goal that
starting tomorrow you are going to go to the gym every day for an hour.
After about 2 days it will seem like torture, at least it has for me!
Like I said before, I am a fan of small steps.
How about setting a smaller goal, like taking a walk around the block
for 15 minutes two or three days next week? This seems a lot more
realistic - and you are more likely to actually do it. The next week
make it 20 minutes. The following week, add a day. Just keep setting the
goal a little higher each week, and within 3 - 6 months you'll probably
be exercising every day for an hour AND you'll be more likely to stick
with it.
I also suggest getting an "accountability buddy" - a friend that you can
report to - and vice versa. Get very clear on what you want the other to
do. In other words - how do you want them to hold you accountable?
I did this with a friend once, and I told her that the best way she
could hold me accountable was with loving encouragement. If I did not
accomplish my goal, I would then be asked to remind her what the
benefits are of this goal. Why am I doing it?
Remember, your thinking forms your habits. Your habits then shape your
results. So be sure to keep reminding yourself how productive habits
will turn out. What benefits will they have? What is naturally going to
happen in your life as a result?
You are stronger than you think! Pick just one thing - whatever feels
like it is the most important habit that you are ready to shift. Then,
decide on a small step that you feel excited about and know is something
you will do. It is important to build trust in yourself and get a "taste
of success" from time to time. Small goals help you do that. One day
you'll look back and be blown away at how far you've come.
Someone asked me recently "How do I change? How do I follow my passions
when I have to eat and pay bills every day?" I replied, "Little by
little. Just start somewhere."
Copyright 2008 Anastasia Netri
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For something to be worthy, we have to look inside. Was I worthy of this experience? Self worth is a given. But we judge ourselves and determine if we were if fact worthy of whatever it is we are judging. This in itself causes an energy split. Our spiritual self KNOWS we are worthy, without any doubt. But our physical self questions whether or not we were in fact worthy. That being a learned behavior.
All experiences are worthwhile. But we have a physical need to judge them as to whether or not we were worthy of them.
We are all worthy of all experiences.
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Most creatures with 4 legs and fur. Not so much the 8 legged. Can't really include those in my family, but they have every right to exist even though I would rather not have them in my house. Oh and amphibians! Can't forget those! Those are very precious to me.
Angels and guides for sure. Oh and even Jimi Hendrix when he comes around. He's been very busy lately though.
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